So it's been a week since I first met Park Girl. I first mentioned that I felt slightly uncomfortable the first time we met because of the way things were coming across.
Well, turns out my uncomfortable feeling was right. This chick has been clingy as hell, and trying to trap me into a relationship. She's been incredibly needy, and if I don't answer her promptly she starts messaging the hell out of me or calling repeatedly.
The big straw came as she asked me a question that was a bit personal and I told her I wasn't ready to share that with her. She FLIPPED. She accused me of trying to use her for sex, which I'm not, and for not being open with her. I'm sorry, I just met you, you don't need to know my life story in intimate details.
So apparently because I wouldn't divulge private info, she's done with me. Good riddance.
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Monday, August 24, 2009
Sunday wrap-up
Now to finish the Park Girl saga.
I woke up just after noon, and immediately the messages started pouring in. For the most part I ignored them, trying to have a normal day where I'm not being hounded by a woman, which in retrospect for this blog seems foolish considering I'm searching for a woman to hound me for life. But anyways, work time finally rolled around, and I texted her back telling her I was going to work.
It was busy, so I wasn't able to reply much to her, which ended up causing some interesting prompts from her. One period of time where I was away from my phone, she texted me asking if I was checking out her butt when she bent over to crawl thru the playground tube, and if I'd imagined doing her doggy style. Of course, I didn't get a chance to answer since my phone's battery ran out, so for the next 3 hours I had a reprieve from those questions.
For someone who's supposed to be a good church-going girl, she seems to have a rather dirty mind. Not that I mind, but it's almost never-ending, and that's a bit too much for me.
I think I'm gonna give her one more chance to cool it with the naughty talk, but if it doesn't happen, I think I'm going to have to move on.
I woke up just after noon, and immediately the messages started pouring in. For the most part I ignored them, trying to have a normal day where I'm not being hounded by a woman, which in retrospect for this blog seems foolish considering I'm searching for a woman to hound me for life. But anyways, work time finally rolled around, and I texted her back telling her I was going to work.
It was busy, so I wasn't able to reply much to her, which ended up causing some interesting prompts from her. One period of time where I was away from my phone, she texted me asking if I was checking out her butt when she bent over to crawl thru the playground tube, and if I'd imagined doing her doggy style. Of course, I didn't get a chance to answer since my phone's battery ran out, so for the next 3 hours I had a reprieve from those questions.
For someone who's supposed to be a good church-going girl, she seems to have a rather dirty mind. Not that I mind, but it's almost never-ending, and that's a bit too much for me.
I think I'm gonna give her one more chance to cool it with the naughty talk, but if it doesn't happen, I think I'm going to have to move on.
A very long night
So I went and met Park Girl last night. But let's start from the beginning.
I woke up very late and went to breakfast, my normal Saturday routine. I came home and jumped on the PC, and she started texting me, and eventually figured out I was online. We chatted for a couple hours before I had to get ready for work. She kept pushing for a free pizza. I finally gave in, and told her I'd bring her one after I got off work.
Work was rather dull last night, so I was able to get out of there quickly and meet up with her. She definitely was NOT as advertised. The pictures she'd sent me earlier in the day were all head shots. Usually there's a reason for that; because there is a little more than meets the eye, if you catch my drift. Her photos were all well and good, but at first glance... well, it's more than a play on words to say that she was more than I expected. Don't get me wrong, she's very nice, she's not unattractive, and I am not shallow by any means (I mean, after all who am I to judge?), but it was a surprise. Anyways...
So, knowing I'd brought pizza, we then went to Burgerville and got milkshakes to enjoy with the pizza. Then we went and drove down to the waterfront and walked along the boardwalk until we found an area the sprinklers weren't coating with water, and started to eat and get to know each other. We didn't get very far though because she spent plenty of time complaining about how cold it was where we were. It wasn't that cold, but it was somewhat breezy. She was wearing 2 shirts and jeans, yet was colder than I was in a t-shirt and shorts. Not the greatest first impression. Eventually, we packed everything back up and started walking back to my car, headed across the bridge to have coffee at Denny's.
We got there and were sat pretty quickly. I had coffee, and she changed her mind and got hot cocoa. We started talking some more and she started slowly turning to conversation to sexual topics. I'm not usually one to shy away from a sexual conversation, but I started to feel a little uncomfortable. Talk of using a video game remote as a sex toy. The fact that she did a porn spread in a magazine as a gift for one of her exes that was later used on several websites to promote business. All well and good in my book, but the moment I suggest anything sexual and I'm "dirty minded" or "perverted".
So after a couple hours we decided to leave Denny's and we were gonna go find something to do. It was about 2:30-3 am by this point. On the way to somewhere we could just walk around, she decided it was time for her to go home. So I drove her back to her block and she suggested we walk down by the Farmer's Market. There's a playground there at Esther Short Park, which is the only thing accessible due to the Wine & Jazz Festival going on this weekend. We played on the swings, climbed on the play structure, and she crawled thru a plexiglass tunnel for a dollar. It was originally supposed to be two but I pulled my offer for the 2nd dollar and then she did it anyways, and ended up searching all my pockets for the dollar, not finding it but instead finding a paystub, and took to asking my last name, which I told her was "Smith". She ended up asking the night security guy about it, which led to a long talk with him, and then she pretty much called it a night.
I walked her to the door of her building, and she was going to go inside but surprised me with a last-second hug, which I'd figured I wouldn't be getting. As I drove off she asked me if I wanted to come back and come up, which I politely declined. Then she told me she was naked, and I said maybe (jokingly), but apparently that wasn't good enough.
That's it for now. I'll finish the rest of today's adventure after work tomorrow.
I woke up very late and went to breakfast, my normal Saturday routine. I came home and jumped on the PC, and she started texting me, and eventually figured out I was online. We chatted for a couple hours before I had to get ready for work. She kept pushing for a free pizza. I finally gave in, and told her I'd bring her one after I got off work.
Work was rather dull last night, so I was able to get out of there quickly and meet up with her. She definitely was NOT as advertised. The pictures she'd sent me earlier in the day were all head shots. Usually there's a reason for that; because there is a little more than meets the eye, if you catch my drift. Her photos were all well and good, but at first glance... well, it's more than a play on words to say that she was more than I expected. Don't get me wrong, she's very nice, she's not unattractive, and I am not shallow by any means (I mean, after all who am I to judge?), but it was a surprise. Anyways...
So, knowing I'd brought pizza, we then went to Burgerville and got milkshakes to enjoy with the pizza. Then we went and drove down to the waterfront and walked along the boardwalk until we found an area the sprinklers weren't coating with water, and started to eat and get to know each other. We didn't get very far though because she spent plenty of time complaining about how cold it was where we were. It wasn't that cold, but it was somewhat breezy. She was wearing 2 shirts and jeans, yet was colder than I was in a t-shirt and shorts. Not the greatest first impression. Eventually, we packed everything back up and started walking back to my car, headed across the bridge to have coffee at Denny's.
We got there and were sat pretty quickly. I had coffee, and she changed her mind and got hot cocoa. We started talking some more and she started slowly turning to conversation to sexual topics. I'm not usually one to shy away from a sexual conversation, but I started to feel a little uncomfortable. Talk of using a video game remote as a sex toy. The fact that she did a porn spread in a magazine as a gift for one of her exes that was later used on several websites to promote business. All well and good in my book, but the moment I suggest anything sexual and I'm "dirty minded" or "perverted".
So after a couple hours we decided to leave Denny's and we were gonna go find something to do. It was about 2:30-3 am by this point. On the way to somewhere we could just walk around, she decided it was time for her to go home. So I drove her back to her block and she suggested we walk down by the Farmer's Market. There's a playground there at Esther Short Park, which is the only thing accessible due to the Wine & Jazz Festival going on this weekend. We played on the swings, climbed on the play structure, and she crawled thru a plexiglass tunnel for a dollar. It was originally supposed to be two but I pulled my offer for the 2nd dollar and then she did it anyways, and ended up searching all my pockets for the dollar, not finding it but instead finding a paystub, and took to asking my last name, which I told her was "Smith". She ended up asking the night security guy about it, which led to a long talk with him, and then she pretty much called it a night.
I walked her to the door of her building, and she was going to go inside but surprised me with a last-second hug, which I'd figured I wouldn't be getting. As I drove off she asked me if I wanted to come back and come up, which I politely declined. Then she told me she was naked, and I said maybe (jokingly), but apparently that wasn't good enough.
That's it for now. I'll finish the rest of today's adventure after work tomorrow.
Saturday, August 22, 2009
Leave it to Karma...
Leave it to Karma to have me write a post about having trouble meeting people and then hit it off really well with someone...
Last night I was sitting in chat and looking for people to talk to, and came across a woman who lives here in the 'Couve, downtown. We chatted it up for a short bit last night, and then quite a bit today, both via chat and later texting.
She seems very nice, but seems to have a few issues with trust. She's been burned by people in the past. Seems like I maybe met the female version of me, lol. Through our conversations, it's clear she's interested in seeing if things might work out, but she's very reluctant to do anything even remotely affectionate, even cuddling on a couch watching a movie, unless "it's with her boyfriend". She was going to invite me over tonight (if I wasn't working) to listen to the live music from the Wine & Jazz Festival, but then before I could accept coming over AFTER work, she said that she had promised herself the next guy she had to her home would be her boyfriend.
Now, I have a rather good sense of humor, so leave it to me to say "ah, trying to trap me already, huh? lol"... I don't think she understood it as a joke however. Well, at least until I explained it to her, that is. Then everything seemed to go smoothly again.
We'll see how things go with this one... Maybe this could be a short blog lol!
Last night I was sitting in chat and looking for people to talk to, and came across a woman who lives here in the 'Couve, downtown. We chatted it up for a short bit last night, and then quite a bit today, both via chat and later texting.
She seems very nice, but seems to have a few issues with trust. She's been burned by people in the past. Seems like I maybe met the female version of me, lol. Through our conversations, it's clear she's interested in seeing if things might work out, but she's very reluctant to do anything even remotely affectionate, even cuddling on a couch watching a movie, unless "it's with her boyfriend". She was going to invite me over tonight (if I wasn't working) to listen to the live music from the Wine & Jazz Festival, but then before I could accept coming over AFTER work, she said that she had promised herself the next guy she had to her home would be her boyfriend.
Now, I have a rather good sense of humor, so leave it to me to say "ah, trying to trap me already, huh? lol"... I don't think she understood it as a joke however. Well, at least until I explained it to her, that is. Then everything seemed to go smoothly again.
We'll see how things go with this one... Maybe this could be a short blog lol!
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Finding dates is harder as you age
I have been on several "dating" sites since I was 18. Match.com, hotornot.com, and recently discovered once upon a time that I also signed up for e-harmony.com. I don't remember doing it, but what the hell?
I have, through at least the first two sites, met a total of one person, whom I still talk to today, and have "connected" (read e-mailed) with probably a dozen. Nothing has ever really come from any of them, but I've resolved to keep searching anyways. You never know, right?
Right now, I'm trying to set up a date with a few ladies that I have met previously. One of which, the Daycare lady, is a very nice girl, older than I am (I, for some reason, always seem to date younger), and very attractive. We met thru a chat room and have talked for several years, only meeting face to face a couple months ago, as she needed some handyman services at her new home in Hillsboro. She has suggested a possibility of going camping together, which I'd be fine with. Also we've been able to agree to meet for drinks, but random schedule hiccups keep that plan still on the books.
Another is the Redhead. She first sought me out on hotornot.com, and we met not long after. She then moved to Salem, making a full-blown relationship difficult, but not impossible. She has a son who is around 9, and is back in school finishing her education. We click, but we'll see where things go. (I suppose here is where I should mention that I have no problem with women who have children. I've dated a few and it's not an issue with me at all)
There are others, but those are really the only two that have any real potential at this point in time. It's difficult due to distances, even though they aren't great. I'll find a way somehow, I always do!
I have, through at least the first two sites, met a total of one person, whom I still talk to today, and have "connected" (read e-mailed) with probably a dozen. Nothing has ever really come from any of them, but I've resolved to keep searching anyways. You never know, right?
Right now, I'm trying to set up a date with a few ladies that I have met previously. One of which, the Daycare lady, is a very nice girl, older than I am (I, for some reason, always seem to date younger), and very attractive. We met thru a chat room and have talked for several years, only meeting face to face a couple months ago, as she needed some handyman services at her new home in Hillsboro. She has suggested a possibility of going camping together, which I'd be fine with. Also we've been able to agree to meet for drinks, but random schedule hiccups keep that plan still on the books.
Another is the Redhead. She first sought me out on hotornot.com, and we met not long after. She then moved to Salem, making a full-blown relationship difficult, but not impossible. She has a son who is around 9, and is back in school finishing her education. We click, but we'll see where things go. (I suppose here is where I should mention that I have no problem with women who have children. I've dated a few and it's not an issue with me at all)
There are others, but those are really the only two that have any real potential at this point in time. It's difficult due to distances, even though they aren't great. I'll find a way somehow, I always do!
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
My New Project
So I've decided it's a good idea to create a blog to chronicle my dating experience. Dear reader, I hope that you will find it entertaining, and not dull.
Background info for me. I'm a soon-to-be 26 year old male living in Vancouver, WA., a.k.a. "The 'Couve". I work very hard to scratch a living in the current economy, even taking on a roommate that I've known for well over 20 years (my first experience with a roommate was a horror story).
I don't date much. I really don't put much effort into getting dates but that doesn't mean that I'm not wanting to. I get shy around women, intimidated even.
I have been in two committed relationships. The first was the longest, lasting 2 months, ending when she went away to Job Corps. and then broke up with me, finally admitting that she was trying to have a relationship with a man, yet couldn't find herself able to commit like she had previously with women. The second was close in length, 6 weeks, and there have been a couple of rendezvous since then, but things don't look promising. When we first met it was a business connection, and then things rapidly developed. She had just gotten out of an abusive relationship, and as things developed I learned more and more about it. After we had started dating, he came back into the picture and started to give her a hard time again. (in my mind I would have cut off all communication with him if I was her, but she let it continue) Eventually, she broke up with me, stating that the long distance was an issue and that she felt she had rushed into things. Within DAYS she had started seeing him again. Eventually she got married to him, and a little over a year later (present) she is filing for divorce because he cheated on her multiple times with multiple women and also became increasingly physically abusive.
I've pursued relationships with others and had very... interesting results, and that's what this blog is for; to provide you, the reader, with the humorous exploits of my pursuit of happiness.
So let's go!
Background info for me. I'm a soon-to-be 26 year old male living in Vancouver, WA., a.k.a. "The 'Couve". I work very hard to scratch a living in the current economy, even taking on a roommate that I've known for well over 20 years (my first experience with a roommate was a horror story).
I don't date much. I really don't put much effort into getting dates but that doesn't mean that I'm not wanting to. I get shy around women, intimidated even.
I have been in two committed relationships. The first was the longest, lasting 2 months, ending when she went away to Job Corps. and then broke up with me, finally admitting that she was trying to have a relationship with a man, yet couldn't find herself able to commit like she had previously with women. The second was close in length, 6 weeks, and there have been a couple of rendezvous since then, but things don't look promising. When we first met it was a business connection, and then things rapidly developed. She had just gotten out of an abusive relationship, and as things developed I learned more and more about it. After we had started dating, he came back into the picture and started to give her a hard time again. (in my mind I would have cut off all communication with him if I was her, but she let it continue) Eventually, she broke up with me, stating that the long distance was an issue and that she felt she had rushed into things. Within DAYS she had started seeing him again. Eventually she got married to him, and a little over a year later (present) she is filing for divorce because he cheated on her multiple times with multiple women and also became increasingly physically abusive.
I've pursued relationships with others and had very... interesting results, and that's what this blog is for; to provide you, the reader, with the humorous exploits of my pursuit of happiness.
So let's go!
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