Mid-March update

Apologies for the long gap in entries, but I've been looking for work/starting new job for the last month, so that's my excuse.

Reporting on the developments of my last entry, the person whom I discovered was NOT in a relationship later revealed that she had been on and off again with a former teacher of ours, which I thought was kind of creepy. I haven't talked much with her since then, but I am still open to something with her, should there be an opportunity.

I offered to take the lady that I met on PoF out for a sushi dinner, but we haven't been able to nail down any sort of time to make it happen. She also explained that a part of the reason she has waited to meet since we first conversed on the site was because she was uncomfortable with her weight, and has been losing weight much to her satisfaction; she did mention however she likes "bigger guys", of which I currently fall into that category. Writing this makes me realize I need to get into the gym more often than I have been to get to where I want to be.

A former "flame" has been talking with me recently, and she's proposing we spend some time together. I don't know if anything long term would come of it but I'd be interested in finding out.

On another front, I was helping a friend move, one of the women I've known for years and had previously been interested in, and vice versa, and after I was finished I stopped in at a adult club for a beer and to watch the end of a basketball game. I got to know one of the dancers there (the best looking one that night as it turned out), and we're starting to become friends. She's single, and a little under a year younger than I am. Another dancer, when I returned a few nights later, gave me her number, which she unfortunately programmed into my phone with an extra number. She asked me why I didn't call on my next trip with my friend Joe, and I explained why, but we weren't able to get it taken care of before I left that night. That gives me hope though, along with the fact she asked me what days I had available to spend time with her. She's not as good looking as the first dancer, but she's a looker.

That's really about it for right now. I'll post a little more often hopefully, and let all you readers know what's going on.

And as always, please feel free to leave any comments or advice.

Ok, so I'm slacking...

But I have a good excuse! I have been without computer for the last month or so, because the backup disc for the laptop seems to be faulty.

Anyways...

I finally got the date with Old Friend set up, and it was this past Wednesday. We had a lot of fun. She chose to go to a game and that's fine with me. The night before we went to Lloyd Center in Portland to get her some gear, which turned out to be a t-shirt. We also had some food at the food court, but it wasn't really anything super memorable.

We ended up having some pretty good seats for the game, which was fun, and got exciting at the end, before coming out with the victory. Afterwards we went to Voodoo Doughnuts, and tried some of their stuff. I'd never had their doughnuts before, but she had. I got the famous bacon maple bar, and she got a one-day special called the "Tony the Tiger", a chocolate frosted doughnut covered in Frosted Flakes. Definitely different. We agreed on the way back to her place that we should definitely go out again, either for a repeat or just for doughnuts. I was the chauffeur for the evening, so I dropped her off at her home, and said goodnight because she had to go pick up her son, and I went home for the evening.

We've been texting a lot lately, and I wonder if things are going to work out. I would like for them to but at the same time I don't want to rush in and open up like I always do. I'm lost. We have plans to go out and do some things, like go to the zoo, or meet up for a drink... Even a Northwest Ale Festival. We seem to have a lot more in common than I originally thought, which is great. I just don't know where things are going to lead yet, and while I'm not trying to affect the direction of things in any way, it's hard not to wonder where the path is going to ultimately end up; whether the road is a dead end or if it leads to something wonderful. I'll just have to wait and see.

I've pretty much given up on anything happening with the Singer. She is still hung up on her ex-loser and doesn't show any signs of moving on. The Redhead has been quiet as well, although she pops up every now and then. My ex is starting to talk to me somewhat again (we really haven't talked much over the last month or so other than a few texts here and there), and she always seems to do this when I meet someone; it's like she has a sixth sense on when to ruin my life or something (at least that's how it feels). The chick from Salt Lake hasn't talked to me since she went home, and really I don't think it would work out anyways.... that's a little too long distance for me. I can do 2 hours but not 2 states!

Well, wish me luck. I hope that I'll have more to report soon. And as always, if you have any comments or pointers, please feel free to leave them in the comments. And be frank. Not Frank, but frank.

End of the month Update

Honestly, there isn't too much to update on. I have been quite busy this month with work and other things so I haven't had much time to get out and meet people, let alone blog about it. I apologize for not being diligent about it.

To let you know what I've been doing, outside of work, I went sturgeon fishing on the Columbia a couple weeks ago. We didn't catch anything that we could keep, but I did hook into an 8-footer. Took me about a half hour to reel him near the boat, and then handed off to my dad (who didn't hook or catch anything all day) to land.

I've also been to 4 Blazer games, 3 of them preseason, and 2 of them for free. Last night was the season opener, and it was awesome. I got a new custom jersey, and they finally got the look right!

I've been talking to a few women over the last few weeks, with little or no success. The Singer is going through something similar to my experience with my previous ex, but she can't get over the fact that her ex doesn't want to be with her anymore and refuses to move on, despite the fact that she has several (I'm told anyway) suitors, myself included.

I met a woman online a couple months back that eventually moved to Salt Lake City before we met. She was back up here for a while and we were supposed to meet but scheduling and the cold/flu that keeps going around messed up those plans. We still text, but infrequently.

I recently reconnected with a friend from high school on a social networking site, and it sounds like we have a date set up, just need to pick a day. I don't know what or if I should expect anything out of this other than just having a good time with someone I haven't seen in nearly 8 years, but we always were pretty friendly in school and got along very well.

I am still trying to set up a dinner with the Redhead. She keeps hinting at things but then says "only as friends" to others... makes things confusing! I'm of the opinion that she's not sure what she wants yet, plus she's very busy and sometimes uses that as a crutch to keep from making a decision.

Still haven't heard anything at all from the Park girl... and good riddance. Last time I did she IM'd me and asked if I'd found a FWB yet. I jokingly replied that the position was open and asked if she wanted the job, and she freaked, saying she didn't do that kind of thing. Whatever.

I'll keep you posted on how things go... Maybe this date with my old friend will turn out well.

Complicated

So I have had kind of an interesting week, or however long it's been since I last posted.

Last Friday I got a message from a person on PoF, from someone that I'd put on my favorite list to message later. We've been talking for the last week, and seems like we're hitting it off pretty good. She is also a huge sports fan like me, which is something that we've kinda clicked on. We'll see how this goes. I'll keep you posted.

I finally was convinced to meet the woman I spoke about in my last entry. We met on Wednesday, at her friend's house. She was extremely drunk by the time I arrived (I came from the basketball game), and we chatted for a bit. She seems nice enough, but I have to admit I got a weird vibe from her. She had 2 friends over, and one of them had invited another guy back from the bar they had been at, for things that drunken women usually end up regretting. Due to the guy's psychotic behavior, it never went that far, thank goodness, but the whole scenario was rather entertaining, to say the least.

I can't really see anything happening between us though. We'll be good friends, but several elements of her life clash with mine. For example, she likes to party and drink. Like, a lot. As in, straight to the bar after work, and home by 11 to be in bed at 12. I, however, do not like to party. I rarely go out. And when I do, I stick to beer, don't drink excessive amounts (although there's been a few occasions, i.e. birthdays and bach. parties), and rarely drink hard alcohol. And honestly I don't want to be involved with someone who drinks heavily on a regular basis. Been down that road and don't want to travel it again. Not to mention I actually started hitting it off with one of her friends. That would complicate things lol.

In the last couple days as well a lady I met several years ago and have stayed in contact (Singer) with has told me how guilty she feels that she (in her own words and opinion) treated me like crap and didn't give me a fair chance. While I agree that she never gave me a chance, I would hardly say she treated me like crap. However, she's currently pining for someone who doesn't treat her right, doesn't love her, and doesn't want to be with her anymore, kinda the same situation that I'm in right now, but not as far along (I've come to terms and am moving on). She's having some family issues on top of that, so she's really stressed out, and I'm trying to be there to comfort her as best I can. I don't feel like I'm helping much however.

Why is dating so difficult for men? I'm sure to women it feels like we have it easy, but I'll be the first to tell you that it's rather intimidating. Maybe it's just me, but I know it's difficult to analyze things to see if things are going smoothly for the other person, to glean any sign of interest... It almost makes a guy wanna stop and be pursued for a change.

I'm no scaredy-cat though, so I'm going to keep putting myself out there. My slogan: Give me a chance and I'll make you happy. (too cheesy? let me know)

Update 9/27

So it's been a while since I posted, so I figured I'd update things.

First, the ex. She started freaking out after I didn't reply to her messages and ended up pestering one of my relatives to make sure I was ok. I felt kind of guilty so I messaged her not long after and let her know that yes, I was ok, and left it at that. Conversation with her is sporadic at best, and I'm doing my best to not let things get to me.

I've heard once or twice from the crazy park girl in the last couple weeks. She just got her pc back from the shop and now has started school. She no longer talks dirty anymore, and isn't really saying much of anything so I figure that's good.

There's a couple of girls that I've known for a long time that I'm talking to more frequently now and there could be some chemistry. As names are changed to protect the innocent, I'll call them the Singer and the Redhead. With both of these women, there is a mutual attraction, but there are circumstances that keep anything from happening, although it seems walls are crumbling. Both live a good distance away, however one is farther away than the other. We'll see what happens.

As I mentioned in one of my last posts, I recently joined the dating site Plenty of Fish. I've been attempting to contact potential dates, with only one or two replies, and a couple of unsolicited responses to my ad, although these have turned out to be incompatible for various reasons. The replies back that I've received have seemed promising, at least just to start a dialogue, which I suppose that's how everything gets started anyways, right? I have ran into a few people I know personally on the site, but I shall leave them anonymous, like me.

That's pretty much about it. I've gotten over my fears of contacting perfect strangers, so I'm sending out more feelers, and hoping to hear back more.