May Update, and I'm confused...

Well, here we are, halfway into another month, and once again I haven't written in some time. I'm so bad at this blogging thing.

My friend that I had gone to the game with months ago is now seeing someone. Guess I got too caught up in work to make much of an effort with this one. I hope she's happy, and that things work out for her.

I haven't really talked with The Redhead much over the last few months, but she started texting me again recently. I wonder if she had a change of heart towards me or if she just has nobody else to talk to.

I still have not met the gal I met on Plenty of Fish, but eventually we might actually meet.

After not being able to go out to the club since right after my last entry, I haven't seen either of the dancers. Both are no longer working for that club anymore now, as I discovered last night. The better looking of the two I guess was really sick for a while and then hasn't come back to work yet, and might be at another club. The other one, the one who gave me her number, got busted for illegal substances. Guess there's nothing down that path. Couple of the new gals aren't bad looking though, and now that I have some financial issues behind me, I might be able to relax a little more often.

I met a gal the other night at a coworker's b-day keg party. We met while I investigated the hot tub, which she was stewing in. We chatted for the remainder of the night, and I got her number. She's pretty nice, hope I can go out with her.

That's about it for news. I hope to be able to update a little more often now.

Oh, and my ex has started talking to me more and more lately. She was passing by a couple weeks back and proposed we meet and chat. Things were really awkward. For me, the most awkward thing is that I know she's happy with her current partner, and I'm moving on, slowly but surely. However, she knows how I feel, and still wants me to keep up hope that maybe someday things will work out, and I don't know why I should. It makes me both sad and mad. I wonder if perhaps she'll move on finally, so I can move on finally. I've been contemplating telling her to leave me alone but then again I don't know that I could if I tried.

As always, feel free to comment or give advice. I could use some this time around...

Mid-March update

Apologies for the long gap in entries, but I've been looking for work/starting new job for the last month, so that's my excuse.

Reporting on the developments of my last entry, the person whom I discovered was NOT in a relationship later revealed that she had been on and off again with a former teacher of ours, which I thought was kind of creepy. I haven't talked much with her since then, but I am still open to something with her, should there be an opportunity.

I offered to take the lady that I met on PoF out for a sushi dinner, but we haven't been able to nail down any sort of time to make it happen. She also explained that a part of the reason she has waited to meet since we first conversed on the site was because she was uncomfortable with her weight, and has been losing weight much to her satisfaction; she did mention however she likes "bigger guys", of which I currently fall into that category. Writing this makes me realize I need to get into the gym more often than I have been to get to where I want to be.

A former "flame" has been talking with me recently, and she's proposing we spend some time together. I don't know if anything long term would come of it but I'd be interested in finding out.

On another front, I was helping a friend move, one of the women I've known for years and had previously been interested in, and vice versa, and after I was finished I stopped in at a adult club for a beer and to watch the end of a basketball game. I got to know one of the dancers there (the best looking one that night as it turned out), and we're starting to become friends. She's single, and a little under a year younger than I am. Another dancer, when I returned a few nights later, gave me her number, which she unfortunately programmed into my phone with an extra number. She asked me why I didn't call on my next trip with my friend Joe, and I explained why, but we weren't able to get it taken care of before I left that night. That gives me hope though, along with the fact she asked me what days I had available to spend time with her. She's not as good looking as the first dancer, but she's a looker.

That's really about it for right now. I'll post a little more often hopefully, and let all you readers know what's going on.

And as always, please feel free to leave any comments or advice.

Opportunity Lost

So I discovered today that one of my interests is now in a relationship. I wish her well.

This comes as a little bit of a shock to me, but then again I'm not surprised. We haven't talked much lately, and while part of that comes from me being busy with my new job (that I just got let go from after only 3 weeks due to slow business), but it also explains the lack of responsiveness on her part.

Oh well... You live and learn, and thankfully I've learned not to put all my eggs in one basket.

Happy New Year update!

So it's 2010 now, and there's stuff on the horizon.

Updates to come in a few.

Things have become very active for me on Plenty of Fish. After not really going on the site for the last 1/2 of December, I went back on and within the first 24 hours had a flurry of activity. Nothing really to write about yet, but there's been some so-far promising messages, but we'll see what happens.

OKCupid has been somewhat active as well. I have received a few icebreakers from people as well as some replies to messages. Again, nothing much to write about yet.

Also, last weekend I went out for a drink or two at a bar and ran into several ladies I went to high school with, all of whom I had crushes on at one time or another. They seemed genuinely happy to see me, to which I wondered where this feeling was back in high school!

Ok, updates on previous mentions.

I haven't seen my Old Friend since the last entry with the exception of giving her a Christmas gift. Nothing fancy, nothing expensive... a small heart-shaped necklace. She seemed to have been caught off-guard about it, and I later discovered from a trusted friend that it might have been a bad idea. Things have looked better as of late though. At first conversations seemed a bit awkward and odd, but quickly settled back into the norm. Last night she texted me and asked if I'd like to come over to her parent's house for a clam dinner. My turn to be caught off guard, but in a good way. I'll let you know how it goes.

Nothing new with the Redhead. We've been talking, as usual, but nothing in the works and I don't think there will be any time soon.

Multi-mom's deadbeat proposed to her, then disappeared for a week. We aren't talking much anymore, through no fault of my own. It's probably for the best.

The stylist I met through PoF cleared out her profile. Too bad.

The Abused Mom and I have stayed in touch, via text, and we seem to be hitting it off nicely so far. She's busy at the moment trying to ready her manuscript (she's an aspiring author) for a publisher to review, so we haven't talked much the last week or so, but we'll see what happens.

Anyways, that's my update. Hopefully it will tide you over til my next entry. And, as always, any advice and/or insight will be welcomed in the comments.

Recap and update

For the record I now have my laptop up and running again. Now all I have to do is get internet at home again (my wifi network I was using is no longer available)...

I didn't get out on Tuesday like I'd planned. She wanted to have a night for herself, and suggested Thursday as an alternative. That was fine with me.

We originally made plans to go to Buffalo Wild Wings at Cascade Station to watch the Blazer game, but then she changed her mind and we met at The Rock Pizza and Brew Pub, near downtown Vancouver. I'd never been there before. It was a great atmosphere, but the pizza left a lot to be desired. I know good pizza....trust me!

We weren't alone for this excursion, as she had brought her roommate along, as well as met her dad and stepmom there. I'd met her roomie before, but this was my first time meeting her family and I have to say they were awesome. Her dad was funny, and very generous. Before I even had time to find out what my split on the bill was, he snatched the whole ticket up and paid for all of us. THEN he invited us all back to their house to finish watching the Blazer game (which was why we were going out to begin with) as well as to have some more drinks.

We got a chance to chat a bit at the house during time-outs and quarter breaks, and then the older sister arrived. I'd never met her before either, but she was very nice, and seemed genuinely happy to meet me. She also said something about having heard so much about me, which makes me wonder if there'd been some story telling involved.

The night ended and we said our goodbyes in the driveway. I don't know if we're on the same level, but I was kinda hoping for a hug but didn't get one, and wonder if it's in the cards or not, but I'm not gonna give up just yet.

I did buy her a Christmas gift... nothing expensive but hopefully something that will be appreciated and maybe help me figure out what direction things are heading in.

If you have any feedback, as always feel free to leave it.

Merry Christmas to you all!

Been a busy last couple weeks...

First I have to apologize for not posting for nearly a month... My laptop has been down, and is still on the fritz... I should have it up and running soon.

Things have been good the last couple weeks for me. I've had a couple of good back-and-forths on Plenty of Fish, and it looks like at least one could move towards a meeting in person. There have been some negative exchanges though, such as the woman who seems only interested in meeting for sex, which I'm looking to avoid...

For a change I'm making connections with people who are my age or older. I think this might help me avoid some of the problems I've experienced in the past.

The first one I've been talking with is a stylist. Works in a salon. She's really nice, and it seems like we have some things in common, like watching movies and cooking. The other is a single mom who is separated from her abusive husband, who messaged me first. We've been talking, have a lot in common, and have been texting the last few days after exchanging phone numbers (her suggestion!). If I had to pick one of the two as far as who seems more likely to be someone I meet in person, it would be the latter. Nothing against the stylist, but she isn't as talkative and seems almost like she's only going through the motions.

I've also been talking with the Redhead, and even had her over the other night as a celebration of the end of the school term. No, nothing happened, except for some cuddling. We had some drinks and some pizza, and three movies to enjoy the night with.

Another, younger, lady from my past and I have reconnected. We had a fling a while back and she's having some difficulty with her current relationship (read: deadbeat dad-to-be). While I'm not really looking to get involved seriously with her, I wouldn't mind going out and having some fun times with her. Honestly, part of the reason is this is going to be her fifth child, and that's kinda too many for me. If I become seriously involved with a single mother, with plans for the future, I think two would be my limit.

I'm due to go out tonight (it is after midnight at this time) with my date from the game. She and I are going to go and hit up some brew pubs. Not sure how many, but we will be starting with the Salmon Creek Brew Pub in downtown Vancouver. Great beer and good food. Good times will be had.

I'll let you know how the night goes. And, as always, please feel free to chip in with any comments, insights, and/or advice.

Ok, so I'm slacking...

But I have a good excuse! I have been without computer for the last month or so, because the backup disc for the laptop seems to be faulty.

Anyways...

I finally got the date with Old Friend set up, and it was this past Wednesday. We had a lot of fun. She chose to go to a game and that's fine with me. The night before we went to Lloyd Center in Portland to get her some gear, which turned out to be a t-shirt. We also had some food at the food court, but it wasn't really anything super memorable.

We ended up having some pretty good seats for the game, which was fun, and got exciting at the end, before coming out with the victory. Afterwards we went to Voodoo Doughnuts, and tried some of their stuff. I'd never had their doughnuts before, but she had. I got the famous bacon maple bar, and she got a one-day special called the "Tony the Tiger", a chocolate frosted doughnut covered in Frosted Flakes. Definitely different. We agreed on the way back to her place that we should definitely go out again, either for a repeat or just for doughnuts. I was the chauffeur for the evening, so I dropped her off at her home, and said goodnight because she had to go pick up her son, and I went home for the evening.

We've been texting a lot lately, and I wonder if things are going to work out. I would like for them to but at the same time I don't want to rush in and open up like I always do. I'm lost. We have plans to go out and do some things, like go to the zoo, or meet up for a drink... Even a Northwest Ale Festival. We seem to have a lot more in common than I originally thought, which is great. I just don't know where things are going to lead yet, and while I'm not trying to affect the direction of things in any way, it's hard not to wonder where the path is going to ultimately end up; whether the road is a dead end or if it leads to something wonderful. I'll just have to wait and see.

I've pretty much given up on anything happening with the Singer. She is still hung up on her ex-loser and doesn't show any signs of moving on. The Redhead has been quiet as well, although she pops up every now and then. My ex is starting to talk to me somewhat again (we really haven't talked much over the last month or so other than a few texts here and there), and she always seems to do this when I meet someone; it's like she has a sixth sense on when to ruin my life or something (at least that's how it feels). The chick from Salt Lake hasn't talked to me since she went home, and really I don't think it would work out anyways.... that's a little too long distance for me. I can do 2 hours but not 2 states!

Well, wish me luck. I hope that I'll have more to report soon. And as always, if you have any comments or pointers, please feel free to leave them in the comments. And be frank. Not Frank, but frank.

End of the month Update

Honestly, there isn't too much to update on. I have been quite busy this month with work and other things so I haven't had much time to get out and meet people, let alone blog about it. I apologize for not being diligent about it.

To let you know what I've been doing, outside of work, I went sturgeon fishing on the Columbia a couple weeks ago. We didn't catch anything that we could keep, but I did hook into an 8-footer. Took me about a half hour to reel him near the boat, and then handed off to my dad (who didn't hook or catch anything all day) to land.

I've also been to 4 Blazer games, 3 of them preseason, and 2 of them for free. Last night was the season opener, and it was awesome. I got a new custom jersey, and they finally got the look right!

I've been talking to a few women over the last few weeks, with little or no success. The Singer is going through something similar to my experience with my previous ex, but she can't get over the fact that her ex doesn't want to be with her anymore and refuses to move on, despite the fact that she has several (I'm told anyway) suitors, myself included.

I met a woman online a couple months back that eventually moved to Salt Lake City before we met. She was back up here for a while and we were supposed to meet but scheduling and the cold/flu that keeps going around messed up those plans. We still text, but infrequently.

I recently reconnected with a friend from high school on a social networking site, and it sounds like we have a date set up, just need to pick a day. I don't know what or if I should expect anything out of this other than just having a good time with someone I haven't seen in nearly 8 years, but we always were pretty friendly in school and got along very well.

I am still trying to set up a dinner with the Redhead. She keeps hinting at things but then says "only as friends" to others... makes things confusing! I'm of the opinion that she's not sure what she wants yet, plus she's very busy and sometimes uses that as a crutch to keep from making a decision.

Still haven't heard anything at all from the Park girl... and good riddance. Last time I did she IM'd me and asked if I'd found a FWB yet. I jokingly replied that the position was open and asked if she wanted the job, and she freaked, saying she didn't do that kind of thing. Whatever.

I'll keep you posted on how things go... Maybe this date with my old friend will turn out well.