May Update, and I'm confused...

Well, here we are, halfway into another month, and once again I haven't written in some time. I'm so bad at this blogging thing.

My friend that I had gone to the game with months ago is now seeing someone. Guess I got too caught up in work to make much of an effort with this one. I hope she's happy, and that things work out for her.

I haven't really talked with The Redhead much over the last few months, but she started texting me again recently. I wonder if she had a change of heart towards me or if she just has nobody else to talk to.

I still have not met the gal I met on Plenty of Fish, but eventually we might actually meet.

After not being able to go out to the club since right after my last entry, I haven't seen either of the dancers. Both are no longer working for that club anymore now, as I discovered last night. The better looking of the two I guess was really sick for a while and then hasn't come back to work yet, and might be at another club. The other one, the one who gave me her number, got busted for illegal substances. Guess there's nothing down that path. Couple of the new gals aren't bad looking though, and now that I have some financial issues behind me, I might be able to relax a little more often.

I met a gal the other night at a coworker's b-day keg party. We met while I investigated the hot tub, which she was stewing in. We chatted for the remainder of the night, and I got her number. She's pretty nice, hope I can go out with her.

That's about it for news. I hope to be able to update a little more often now.

Oh, and my ex has started talking to me more and more lately. She was passing by a couple weeks back and proposed we meet and chat. Things were really awkward. For me, the most awkward thing is that I know she's happy with her current partner, and I'm moving on, slowly but surely. However, she knows how I feel, and still wants me to keep up hope that maybe someday things will work out, and I don't know why I should. It makes me both sad and mad. I wonder if perhaps she'll move on finally, so I can move on finally. I've been contemplating telling her to leave me alone but then again I don't know that I could if I tried.

As always, feel free to comment or give advice. I could use some this time around...

Mid-March update

Apologies for the long gap in entries, but I've been looking for work/starting new job for the last month, so that's my excuse.

Reporting on the developments of my last entry, the person whom I discovered was NOT in a relationship later revealed that she had been on and off again with a former teacher of ours, which I thought was kind of creepy. I haven't talked much with her since then, but I am still open to something with her, should there be an opportunity.

I offered to take the lady that I met on PoF out for a sushi dinner, but we haven't been able to nail down any sort of time to make it happen. She also explained that a part of the reason she has waited to meet since we first conversed on the site was because she was uncomfortable with her weight, and has been losing weight much to her satisfaction; she did mention however she likes "bigger guys", of which I currently fall into that category. Writing this makes me realize I need to get into the gym more often than I have been to get to where I want to be.

A former "flame" has been talking with me recently, and she's proposing we spend some time together. I don't know if anything long term would come of it but I'd be interested in finding out.

On another front, I was helping a friend move, one of the women I've known for years and had previously been interested in, and vice versa, and after I was finished I stopped in at a adult club for a beer and to watch the end of a basketball game. I got to know one of the dancers there (the best looking one that night as it turned out), and we're starting to become friends. She's single, and a little under a year younger than I am. Another dancer, when I returned a few nights later, gave me her number, which she unfortunately programmed into my phone with an extra number. She asked me why I didn't call on my next trip with my friend Joe, and I explained why, but we weren't able to get it taken care of before I left that night. That gives me hope though, along with the fact she asked me what days I had available to spend time with her. She's not as good looking as the first dancer, but she's a looker.

That's really about it for right now. I'll post a little more often hopefully, and let all you readers know what's going on.

And as always, please feel free to leave any comments or advice.

Happy New Year update!

So it's 2010 now, and there's stuff on the horizon.

Updates to come in a few.

Things have become very active for me on Plenty of Fish. After not really going on the site for the last 1/2 of December, I went back on and within the first 24 hours had a flurry of activity. Nothing really to write about yet, but there's been some so-far promising messages, but we'll see what happens.

OKCupid has been somewhat active as well. I have received a few icebreakers from people as well as some replies to messages. Again, nothing much to write about yet.

Also, last weekend I went out for a drink or two at a bar and ran into several ladies I went to high school with, all of whom I had crushes on at one time or another. They seemed genuinely happy to see me, to which I wondered where this feeling was back in high school!

Ok, updates on previous mentions.

I haven't seen my Old Friend since the last entry with the exception of giving her a Christmas gift. Nothing fancy, nothing expensive... a small heart-shaped necklace. She seemed to have been caught off-guard about it, and I later discovered from a trusted friend that it might have been a bad idea. Things have looked better as of late though. At first conversations seemed a bit awkward and odd, but quickly settled back into the norm. Last night she texted me and asked if I'd like to come over to her parent's house for a clam dinner. My turn to be caught off guard, but in a good way. I'll let you know how it goes.

Nothing new with the Redhead. We've been talking, as usual, but nothing in the works and I don't think there will be any time soon.

Multi-mom's deadbeat proposed to her, then disappeared for a week. We aren't talking much anymore, through no fault of my own. It's probably for the best.

The stylist I met through PoF cleared out her profile. Too bad.

The Abused Mom and I have stayed in touch, via text, and we seem to be hitting it off nicely so far. She's busy at the moment trying to ready her manuscript (she's an aspiring author) for a publisher to review, so we haven't talked much the last week or so, but we'll see what happens.

Anyways, that's my update. Hopefully it will tide you over til my next entry. And, as always, any advice and/or insight will be welcomed in the comments.

Been a busy last couple weeks...

First I have to apologize for not posting for nearly a month... My laptop has been down, and is still on the fritz... I should have it up and running soon.

Things have been good the last couple weeks for me. I've had a couple of good back-and-forths on Plenty of Fish, and it looks like at least one could move towards a meeting in person. There have been some negative exchanges though, such as the woman who seems only interested in meeting for sex, which I'm looking to avoid...

For a change I'm making connections with people who are my age or older. I think this might help me avoid some of the problems I've experienced in the past.

The first one I've been talking with is a stylist. Works in a salon. She's really nice, and it seems like we have some things in common, like watching movies and cooking. The other is a single mom who is separated from her abusive husband, who messaged me first. We've been talking, have a lot in common, and have been texting the last few days after exchanging phone numbers (her suggestion!). If I had to pick one of the two as far as who seems more likely to be someone I meet in person, it would be the latter. Nothing against the stylist, but she isn't as talkative and seems almost like she's only going through the motions.

I've also been talking with the Redhead, and even had her over the other night as a celebration of the end of the school term. No, nothing happened, except for some cuddling. We had some drinks and some pizza, and three movies to enjoy the night with.

Another, younger, lady from my past and I have reconnected. We had a fling a while back and she's having some difficulty with her current relationship (read: deadbeat dad-to-be). While I'm not really looking to get involved seriously with her, I wouldn't mind going out and having some fun times with her. Honestly, part of the reason is this is going to be her fifth child, and that's kinda too many for me. If I become seriously involved with a single mother, with plans for the future, I think two would be my limit.

I'm due to go out tonight (it is after midnight at this time) with my date from the game. She and I are going to go and hit up some brew pubs. Not sure how many, but we will be starting with the Salmon Creek Brew Pub in downtown Vancouver. Great beer and good food. Good times will be had.

I'll let you know how the night goes. And, as always, please feel free to chip in with any comments, insights, and/or advice.

Update 9/27

So it's been a while since I posted, so I figured I'd update things.

First, the ex. She started freaking out after I didn't reply to her messages and ended up pestering one of my relatives to make sure I was ok. I felt kind of guilty so I messaged her not long after and let her know that yes, I was ok, and left it at that. Conversation with her is sporadic at best, and I'm doing my best to not let things get to me.

I've heard once or twice from the crazy park girl in the last couple weeks. She just got her pc back from the shop and now has started school. She no longer talks dirty anymore, and isn't really saying much of anything so I figure that's good.

There's a couple of girls that I've known for a long time that I'm talking to more frequently now and there could be some chemistry. As names are changed to protect the innocent, I'll call them the Singer and the Redhead. With both of these women, there is a mutual attraction, but there are circumstances that keep anything from happening, although it seems walls are crumbling. Both live a good distance away, however one is farther away than the other. We'll see what happens.

As I mentioned in one of my last posts, I recently joined the dating site Plenty of Fish. I've been attempting to contact potential dates, with only one or two replies, and a couple of unsolicited responses to my ad, although these have turned out to be incompatible for various reasons. The replies back that I've received have seemed promising, at least just to start a dialogue, which I suppose that's how everything gets started anyways, right? I have ran into a few people I know personally on the site, but I shall leave them anonymous, like me.

That's pretty much about it. I've gotten over my fears of contacting perfect strangers, so I'm sending out more feelers, and hoping to hear back more.

Why is it so hard...?

So this is kinda embarrassing, but I've been trying to reply to a person on Plenty of Fish for like the last week but every time I go to do so I get cold feet. I'll be re-reading this woman's profile and description and getting all psyched up to mail her, but then I think I psych myself right back out of it.

I've found myself wondering tonight if perhaps it's because this person seems so compatible that I'm afraid of getting sucked in too fast should we meet, followed by the (so far) obligatory loss of interest. I don't see any other real reason why I should be so nervous about it. I am opening myself up to interpretation however. Feel free to chime in via comment.

Then again, another thing could be that this woman is a recent divorcee, and in these modern times that can be construed as a failure to commit. Like many of my single friends I'm not really looking to date anymore, but to find that special person. I've been told by so many people this past week that they're sure that someone is out there for me, and I believe that's true, but why is she so damn hard to find?

It can't be that hard; last night at my birthday dinner I got hit on by our server. It caught me off guard, plus I had my family there. Nothing like getting shot down in front of family, although my mother pointed out the fact that our server had a large rock on her finger (I didn't see it).

I think I'm going to watch Transformers and try and get up the courage to act, much like Sam did in the movie. After all, no sacrifice, no victory, right?